Weddings typically turn into musical events, overshadowing their real objective: celebrating love. The strain of wedding planning can examine parental ties, connections, and even the child’s relationship, sometimes causing them to bite. A wife- to- become was drawn into household drama over her fiancé’s friend’s attire for the great day. Reddit user turned to the r/AmItheAsshole area with her problem, asking: “AITA for telling my quickly- to- be daughter that she doesn’t needed to wear a dress to my marriage”?
The 32-year-old began by saying that she immediately thought it would be a good idea to ask her wife’s sister if she would like to be a maid at their wedding the following year. We’ve just met her a few times, so we’re not very near, but she seemed like a great kid, so I thought it might be a good idea to get to know her and involve her in the wedding. Side word: “she’s the single niece/nephew on either side of the family”, Severe- Break- 6638 wrote.
Little did the bride know that her lovely gesture had eventually put the 15-year-old in a somewhat uncomfortable position when it came to choosing bride outfits. We met a few weeks ago in my fiance’s town to visit his family and talk about wedding-related matters. His brother, sister-in-law, and daughter also through, and I noticed that she was dressed much more matronly than I remembered. The subject moved to wedding gowns and bridesmaid’s dresses and I could see she was soon uncomfortable. Her parents (her mum really) and grandma were making comments about how she’d need to be more feminine/brush her hair etc, and how nice it would be to see her like that”, the Reddit user shared.
“I’ll become honest and say that this really hit a nerve with me because I was a boy when I was a teenager (even though I’m no longer) and it totally broke me whenever my friends would say stuff like that. Finally, her mother made a reply along the lines of, ‘It’ll been good to see you dressed like a child for again,’ and she looked really sad/embarrassed/upset”, she revealed. The bride stood up for the young and assured her that she could use whatever she was pleasant in, manipulated by her soon-to-be sister-in-law’s words.
I instantly told her that my maid of honor may be wearing a pant fit for the marriage rather than a gown, and that I had also given all the bridesmaids the option to wear anything they want as long as it’s in the “wedding color” to make things easier. I pulled out my phone and started showing her photos of the ideas my friend had sent me ( a jumpsuit, culottes, a trouser suit, a tailored tux, etc ) and let her know that she could pick anything at all she wanted- she could even wear jeans and trainers if that made her comfortable–and that it’s a wedding, not a fashion show”, Extreme- Break- 6638 revealed.
Although this came as a huge relief to the teenager, the bride’s efforts to comfort the youngster did not sit right with the girl’s mother. “She’s since asked my fiancé to pressure me into getting all the bridesmaids’ dresses so their daughter will have to wear one ( which, lol, no ). My husband doesn’t care what she wears, but he obviously doesn’t care about his family and I getting into a fight on the day of the wedding. She asked fellow Redditors if she was wrong for overruling the teen’s mother, saying, “I don’t want to back down because I know what it feels like to be made to wear something that makes you uncomfortable, but I know it’s only for a day and it’d make the family happy.”
The bride quickly assured the bride that this was the first time she had every reason to become a “bridezilla” and that she had no choice but to wear bridesmaid outfits. “Definitely NTA. Don’t back down. Stand your ground. Never in my life did I believe I would encourage someone to be a bridezilla. Please. Please. Be the bridezilla. Go full bridezilla”, billlevansatmariposa.