A woman mentioned in a new article that she and her husband-of-honor were “months ago” when she went shopping for dresses because their wedding is in the fall. The lady also revealed details about her relationship with her after describing her marriage programs.
“I’ve known my MOH (lady- of- respect) since fifth class and we were best buddies all through school”, she wrote. We parted ways after we left school, but I always saw her when I returned home.
She noted that she paid for two motel rooms to provide the guests who were present at the bridal party while the shopping was done away. She then described the dress-shopping recommendations for bridesmaids and how the function went.
“My only requirement for dresses was that they had to be a specific blue color and no satin material”, the bride continued. Anyone found a suitable dress to wear the entire evening, including my MOH, and we tried on it all. I’ve been told she picked out a $350 dress when most of my other girls had garments in the $100-$150 range”.
However, the wife claimed that the bride should pay for the clothes because she wanted particular ones and that her MOH after “began complaining to one of the] another brides about having to pay for her dress.” The MOH also cited her friend’s claim that she “didn’t pay for the bridesmaid dress when she married.” But, the Reddit user said that this was because the MOH got at 18 and they wore “old prom dresses they already had”.
She therefore expressed, who the MOH was complaining to, came to the couple’s protection.
“My maid informed her that my request was fair and that she had the option to purchase any outfit she wanted. The bride shrugged off the bridesmaid’s blush but afterwards told me about it because MOH was against it,” continued the article.
The bride pointed out that the MOH then demanded that she pay for the gown because it wouldn’t be fair to those who bought the dresses.
“She claimed that everyone would know that she is the MOH. We had a small heated debate, and I disagreed. It ended with me saying if she could not get the dress, she couldn’t be in the wedding, and I wasn’t budging on this”, the bride added.
She noted that she’s since been criticized by the MOH’s mother, with says that she’s “being very harsh for not doing this one point for her friend so she can be it” at the ceremony. After revealing that she also faced accusations of hardly comprehending “what it’s like to not have cash for things,” she admitted to disagree before deciding to step down as her MOH.
“I told my MOH’s mother I have struggled before too and understand, but said I’m not paying for the dress because it won’t be fair to all of the other bridesmaids”, she explained. “I’ve since made one of my other girls, who has helped with all of the organizing, my MOH. I’ve told my ex- MOH she is also invited and sent her an offer.”
She concluded by mentioning that some of her family members have told her to pay for her friend’s “tight on income” friend’s outfit. The bride also pointed out that her companion had been aware of her engagement for almost two years and that the former-MOH if have” set aside money” for the occasion.
The Reddit post has gone popular, with more than 3, 900 posts. In the comments, multiple people defended the bride’s decision to replace her MOH, as they agreed that she shouldn’t pay for her friends’ dress when she’s not paying for the other bridesmaids’ outfits. The original MOH’s decision to pick a more expensive outfit was criticized by some attendees.
If you paid for her clothing rather than theirs, the other girls would not be honest, one wrote. The fact that all of your bridesmaids chose dresses in the $100 to $150 price range, while she chose a $350 dress was the most outrageous. Then she wants you to pay for the $350 dress”!
“Occasionally brides pay for girl ‘ clothes. Sometimes they don’t. MOH knew you weren’t and selected a dress at least twice as expensive as everyone else’s, then whined that it was too expensive”, another added.
“It’s common to buy your own MOH/bridesmaid dress so if she can’t afford to be in the wedding (understandable if money is an issue ), it’s quite alright to replace her”, a third added. It’s s***ty of her to complain about the dress to others when, in my opinion, she could have done it herself. This raises the question whether she is really having trouble paying for it or simply didn’t want to buy it. Either way, you made the right decision.”