Despite first offering her bridal dress to her, a woman has been praised for instead choosing to give it to her coming daughter-in-law.
Even though the situation is complicated, an expert claimed that the mother “has every right to pass her clothing down to whomever she wants” and that she is most definitely not in the wrong.
The woman, 42, who did not give her brand but who writes on under the account u/TemperatureOverall94, explained she had often dreamed of gifting her bridal dress to her future child, actually going for a simple search for her own wedding to maintain it remained “timeless”.
She had a son, who she called Mark for the uses of the article, with her father, but he unfortunately died when Mark was a young child, and they had no other children along.
The family later remarried to who she called Rob, who is 10 times older than her, and gained a daughter, who she called Molly, then 24.
But while she was “so excited to have a stepdaughter”, Molly remained cool with her, and “made it clear that she didn’t see me as her real mom”, even accusing her of being a “trophy wife” and spending her father’s money.
Kristen Skiles, a Certified Stepparent Coach and chairman of aid hub Stepmomming, acknowledged to Newsweek: “are so hard, and analysis shows the stepmom-stepdaughter relationship is the hardest of all”.
The girl continued to make efforts with Molly as the years went on, gradually granting her the bridal dress to wear at her own marriage. She is 5 feet 9 inches and a length 4, whereas Molly is 5 feet 4 feet and a size 8.
But, she said, “Molly scoffed and said I had archaic principles and that the dress was sleazy, and walked away. She didn’t care, but she knew what that dress meant for me. I gave up trying to establish a connection with her after that.
Over 50 cent of people in the United States are remarried or re-coupled, according to The Step Family Foundation, and an estimated 1300 fresh stepfamilies, also known as, are forming every day.
Now her brother Mark is engaged to a person, who she called Lucy, —and when she offered Lucy the outfit, it “fit like a glove “and” she fell in love with it”.
But, out of the blue, Molly asked her for the costume. She refused, as she had then promised it to Lucy.
“Skiles, speaking to Newsweek, assured the mother she had every right to refuse Molly the clothing”. When her stepdaughter said she didn’t want it, the stepmom took her at her word and passed it down to someone else, her future daughter-in-law. The stepmom may possess sold or donated the gown abroad, it’s it to give.”
She wrote, on Reddit’s r/AmITheA*****e post: “Then Molly is saying I’m favoring Lucy over her because she’s conforming to standard specifications of womanhood ( getting married and being narrow ). That’s absolutely ridiculous, but it made me wonder if Lucy would ask for the dress if the roles were reversed and she would have to accept it after she immediately rejected it? Is Polly right that I’m favoring Lucy?”
Since the post’s release on August 10 received 7, 900 posts, and over 1100 feedback, Redditors have responded in droves.
“Molly simply wants it because Lucy has it, “one wrote”. Molly turned her nose up in an effort to hurt you (sic), and Lucy saw how precious this dress was to you and treated it accordingly.”
Another person said, “Sometimes in life we make choices that we can’t take back, and we have to learn to accept that.” She wasted her chance to change that because it was not Molly’s style.
One woman also cautioned the person, “This sounds like your daughter is using this as a manipulative tool to create theatre.” You offered her the costume, and she rejected the offer. Now that you’ve made the offer to your FDIL and she’s accepted, your daughter wants it? Is she even engaged?”
However, Skiles suggested that the wife give Molly a “heartfelt reason” and assure her that giving the gown to her was never meant to offend you or be an attack on her in any way, and that she still wants a good relationship with her.
” Gates will need to be mended for future home cooperation,” Skiles warned, but accepted there was no promise that Molly “will be available to a conversation about the clothing”.
She will probably harbor resentment and develop her own explanation of why the clothing was passed down to Lucy in the absence of it.
The woman eventually posted an update ensure readers that her father, Molly’s parents, was on her part, but she also worried that she had painted her daughter in a negative light.
She explained Molly had had a difficult relationship with her biological mother, and while she wishes “the best for her […] she sure as heck isn’t getting that dress.”